elitefts™ Sunday Edition
As I write this first installment of Project Jonah, I’m considering what’s next in my son’s preparation for sports in the future. But I am not alone. Thousands of parents face the dilemma of how to prepare their kids for sports. We ask ourselves, “how do we maximize our child’s potential while not making them hate us in the process? Do we hire a trainer, a speed coach, a nutritionist? Should we train them on our own and/or just let their high school coach deal with it? Are we making decisions regarding what they want vs. what we think they want? How do we determine if it’s our kids’ dream or if it is us wanting it for them—to perform at a level that meets their potential? What’s the goal? Is it a college scholarship, recognition from piers, and/or just trying to become the best they can be?” Even given my experience and background, I find myself asking these questions regarding my son, Jonah.
My background, as it relates to training and sports, is a little bit diverse compared to most. All of the sports in which I participated required some level of lifting and strength development. I began playing football at the age of 11 through University at Cal-poly San Luis Obispo; therefore, I was required to gain speed and strength. Then, after my football career, I continued to lift but in more of a fitness mode. Next, I found the sport of Rugby, where I gained multiple Caps for the Hong Kong National Team. And then, after my rugby career, I started running (yes, of all things, running) and ran the Portland Marathon at 250 pounds. Finally, after the Portland Marathon, I found the sport of powerlifting. Powerlifting came very quickly to me because of the strength I had built throughout my many years of lifting for sports, and I have now been competing in powerlifting at its highest levels for that last seven years. I have squatted over 1,000 pounds more than two dozen times, and I have been deadlifting above 800 pounds in meets. Today, I have a day job but also own Hoss’s Gym. Given my background in sports and lifting, I think I bring plenty of training knowledge to my son Jonah’s sports preparation.
Meet Jonah
Jonah is 14 years old, five foot seven, 140 pounds, and fairly shy. Yet, he is a supremely confident kid. Jonah is a freshman at Rio Americano High School in Sacramento, California, where he started both ways on the junior varsity football team. His first quarter’s grades are all A’s, even while taking Honors courses. Additionally, he is playing in competitive club soccer right now and plans to run track in the spring. The point of this is that Jonah is very busy, athletically as well as academically.
This column, going forward, will be a way to track what’s working for Jonah and what is not. I think it’s important to note the methods that are not working just as much as it is to note the methods that are. Hopefully this column will teach people and save them some headaches.
When I was Jonah’s age, I remember entering the high school weight room with a bit of excitement and fear. Then, once I was in the weight room, I remember thinking to myself, “what do I do now and how do I do it?” We had a coach that taught us how to lift, but there was no real plan. There was also no real schedule; we showed up and lifted with recklessness. I remember every Monday how I’d max on the bench press. We all got stronger, but we certainly didn’t maximize our potential in the weight room. The good news is that we had a coach to help us with technique. The bad news is that we could have had better guidance in terms of training programs and plans. Jonah is a bit more fortunate in that he knows about lifting from me and my years of powerlifting.
Challenges Ahead
The first major challenge we all will face is that there are always those coaches who think they know the weight room and how to train kids. For instance, over the summer I let Jonah do some lifting with his football team. He would come home and tell me all of the things the coaches were telling him to do that were contrary to how he had been taught to lift. The squat technique is what set me off the most. I had to think about how to respond to the coaches’ poor technical advice. As a parent, you do not want to be in conflict with your kid’s coaches. Therefore, I would tell Jonah to just lift the way I taught him and when/if they told him something, he was to say “OK.” I told him to not argue or discredit the coach, just agree and lift the way I had taught him. Luckily, the coach didn’t notice that Jonah didn’t change his lifting to adhere to his advice. Now, if we were talking about an English paper or Trigonometry, I would have told Jonah to agree with the teacher. I truly think my background gives me the right to teach Jonah as I know a bit about lifting. This does, however, pose a problem for many who may not know how lifting should be taught. Just remember that it’s okay to disagree with how training is being done, but try and be politically correct with these coaches. Many coaches truly believe they know the best ways to train kids, and some do… but not all.
After the season had ended, I went into the weight room to talk to the coaches and to offer my help in any way they needed. I expressed that I had no need or desire to be compensated, rather I would love to volunteer in order to help make sure these kids were lifting properly. As expected, I was treated with a very high level of skepticism. I tried to explain my background but could sense the other coaches’ uneasiness with my delivery. I will certainly volunteer if asked, but right now I have a point to prove. Jonah is only 140 pounds, yet he is the strongest freshman playing football. In turn, there is perhaps only one kid on the junior varsity team who can challenge him in the weight room. And no one challenges Jonah in the 40-yard dash. I think the only way to teach these coaches that they may not know as much as they think is to have your kids simply out-perform the rest of the team.
Another issue you may face in training for sports like football is that coaches want the kids to lift together. This is not only for strength development, but it’s also for team building. So in Jonah’s case, I need him to be part of the team even though I know much of what is going on in that weight room at school is horseplay, not training. Thus, Jonah will be lifting his core lifts with me, and I am telling him he can lift with his team, but only arm and ab like work. This is a tough one because I do not want him wasting good training days horsing around in the gym, but I also need him to be part of the team. Somehow we need to decide how best to handle this as we go forward, so I will need to play it by ear. I may need to sit in on a few team training sessions just to see how it’s handled.
Jonah is more of a skill player and will likely never be a “big guy,” but this doesn’t mean that he isn’t in need of adding bodyweight. At 140 pounds, he really needs to gain 20 to 25 pounds this year if he plans on playing on the varsity team as a sophomore. Like most kids these days, Jonah’s diet is lacking consistency and quality. The meals are here and there, and he lacks sufficient protein. Is a nutritionist needed? Not really, just some discipline by Jonah. And obviously it’s my job to make sure he has the food and protein needed to be disciplined with his diet. If you do not understand nutrition, it’s worth your time to consult a trainer who does. If your kid’s diet is garbage, his training will be also. Jonah learned this just the other day when, for the first time, he didn’t hit a PR in training. He was three pounds below his bodyweight and had slept in without eating until 11:00 a.m. The impact on his training was apparent. Lesson learned. Benching below his max, combined with all the other Hoss Gym Members teasing him about not eating, helped with his recognition.
Now the challenge of all challenges: how should I train Jonah. He is a speed guy who needs to gain 20 pounds, increase his speed, and get more powerful. Does this mean he needs to lift the way I do? NO, certainly not. Jonah’s training will be based on a variation of the Westside method with less max effort movements. In other words, Jonah will be doing lots of explosive speed work with accommodating resistance. I will document his plan in the next installment of this column. This way we can measure his progress. We will also focus on cleaning up at least two meals a day, with the goal of making it at least three clean meals a day very soon.
This column is a way to measure the development of a kid over the course of his high school years. My hope is that people can learn from this column and help their own children in the process.
















Great article.. being also a father of a 14 year old, in my case a daughter, involved in competitive sports, and being myself also engaged in many sports, lifting, swimming and MMA, im trully curious on how we can share our knowledge and help them with their fitness without going against their coaches and all the hours our kids allready put in..
Cant wait for the follow ups ;)
Great idea Hoss. As a high school and youth football coach would like to see how your training progresses with your son. This is a typical scenario for high school kids, build body mass and speed. Quote……….”to perform at a level that meets their potential?’
Keep it coming.
I’ll definitely be following this! I have 3 boys and a girl with the boys being the oldest and the oldest at age 9. I struggle to be creative with exercises for my boys, they are made to play outside as much as possible but we do fun games for them that involve jumping, running, throwing type things as well. I try not to overthink it much (because I will), but let them know that I’m excited about them running faster, jumping farther/higher, and getting stronger. They hate the normal squats, push ups, pull ups type things so it’s definitely difficult to get them to put any effort into anything like that. They do enjoy the games outside though. I’m interested in the types of things you have done previously before hitting the weights.
Look forward to the next one!
This is great. I will be following this as my son is about the same height/weight as your son but is involved with basketball and baseball. I had him performing benches, squats, deadlifts and high pulls during the summer and I could see the difference in his performance in AAU baseball.
Very interesting article. As a young man going through the trials of football/ weightroom with no outside guidance (my parents were not sports people), I realize how much of an impact I can have on my own children’s athletic pursuits. While they are relatively young, 2 and 5, I will be following this project close to see how to, not necessarily train them myself, but to help guide them with a bit more knowledge.
Thank you for giving us your knowledge and insight.
I’ve been a fan of you since I saw you in Power Unlimited the movie.
Really looking forward to this series.
Great article. My oldest is 13 and I’m asking the same questions. Ill be following this series.
Big Hoss! Awesome to see you writing on here. Your philosophies for training your son seem perfect. Here’s to some big progress for him!
This is great Hoss, I can’t wait to follow along Jonah’s development, and apply it to my own three kids as they reach similar ages
Nice article and very helpful — look forward to seeing the regular updates, including the training template you’re using with him.
I experienced a similar challenge with my 13-year-old son, who participates in track and springboard diving at his junior/senior high school, and powerlifting and martial arts outside of school… I felt as though the prescribed/required training at school was negatively impacting his strength progress and might result in injury, so I petitioned the school to remove him from the training program and add study hall. That came with a multi-day commitment on my part to ensure he gets his workouts, but it also allows for some quality father-son time and peace of mind regarding his training.
Disclaimer: what follows is sappy Lifetime-esque content.
As my dad would tell you after helping me train, remember that these years are solid gold bonding years. Some of my best memories to date.
Nice to meet Hoss and great to see this series! I think this series will be extremely popular!
cant wait for the next installment!!!
Really looking forward to this series. I have had the same frustrations with my sons training. My greatest concern is how to balance his lifts at home in our gym, and getting him in the gym with his team, as his football coach has requested. I want to respect the team aspect, as it is important, but want to help him maximize his potential. He is also the strongest sophomore, and only a couple seniors are stronger, or faster. The proof of my training is right there, but I still face resistance from coaches. BTW, our high school program has NO DEADLIFTING. So, yeah…
Very good start to a plan. I remember my coaches in high school. They knew NOTHING about training and technique. Feet shoulder width, ass to ankles….Thanks coaches, for the years Ive suffered with knee pain and pops. Way to go Hoss….You’re kid will thank you in the years to come!
When is part 2 coming ? I eagerly await it.